Are you a parent in process or already divorced?
How are things in your divorce situation? Is it a constant battle between you and your ex, or can you two make it work?
What is the biggest pain you are enduring? Are you worried about the negative effects of the situation on your children?
Do you feel more than just frustrated, angry, and anxious because you’re worried about what your ex will do or say next to make your life more miserable? Do you feel that stress and anxiety are affecting your health?
What do you fear more than anything when it comes to your ex? How are you dealing with this? Do you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells?
Is there anything I can do to help alleviate this overwhelming fear?
My wife Laurie and I created The EX-Factor to help guide you in creating harmony after separation to nurture an environment in which your children thrive.
We are here to tell you, “YES, there is!”
Each of us has been where you are. We have experienced the emotional trauma of divorce and seen the effect on our children. We have worked with coaches and counselors. We have done the necessary work for personal growth. We are now passionately committed to being here for you, to serve as your guide and help you navigate the rough waters of divorce.
What are the effects of fear when it comes to divorce?
Fear is suffocating because the tendency is to be consumed by fear when it becomes your main focus. The more you unknowingly focus on your FEAR, the more reactive you become.
Gaining Clarity for what you really want allows you to develop a greater Awareness so you can pause and pivot, that is, think things through and start being proactive. This means that you are rational and intentional so that you can create more of what you really want, rather than more of what you DON’T want.
When you understand that what you focus on is what you get the most out of, you can create a shift to focus your new Clarity on what you DO want.
Being reactive will rarely give you more of what you really want, but instead will create more of what you DON’T want.
Think about it… when the ex suddenly gets mad at you, they have lost control of themselves, they have lost control of the interaction with you and you never want to do what they want you to do!
In the same way, when you react with anger towards the ex, you have lost control of yourself, of the interaction, and the ex will never do what you want him to do!
If you’re like me, many of the things that led to the divorce happened out of the blue. They came as a complete surprise and as a result I wasn’t prepared for any of it and ended up stuck in an extremely reactionary state.
Once I got real Clarity on what I really wanted for my 3-year-old daughter, I was finally able to STOP reacting. The next day a situation occurred with the ex that once would have made me angry. Instead, I took a deep breath and thought about what I wanted for my daughter, which was for me to be the best father I could be.
As a result, I STARTED creating a change in the way I handled things. Yes, I was able to remain calm and self-controlled. In the months that followed, the underlying dynamic began to change.
The empowerment of having Clarity changed everything for my daughter and me.
To gain Clarity, simply step up and take my free Clarity Exercise. To go:
http://www.theex-factor.com/clarityexercise
The access password is “clarity1”
You are here because you have the Awareness that things can change for the better. Commit to moving forward to be the best parent you can be for your children’s sake.
STOP being trapped in the vicious cycle of subconscious fear and START being the best, most conscientious parent you can be to make sure your children are thriving.
