Interestingly, men are much more interested in female orgasm than women themselves. If women love sex, why do men care what is said about their responses? It is the fact that women are not as enthusiastic about sex as men would like that causes men to put pressure on women. This pressure, in turn, causes some women to fake orgasm or profess a fictitious enthusiasm for sex. By promoting the idea that sexual intercourse causes female orgasm, a man can transform his selfish need for sexual release into a selfless desire to please his lover. This masculine behavior is a man’s way of obtaining sexual permission and emotional acceptance from women.
Imagine a world where an exotic species has killed all the women. They are a race of men, much stronger than men on Earth. Aliens find men on Earth attractive and, naturally, aliens are the penetrators. Aliens are so aroused by the ages of men that they assume that men from Earth want to be anally penetrated. Earthmen are not excited by this activity. They provide it because they have no other choice. Aliens enjoy looking at images of men’s ages. They also like images that show their own penises penetrating the anus of terrestrial men. They assume that men should enjoy the same. The images are false to give the impression that men from Earth want to be penetrated by aliens. Some men on Earth suggest that they enjoy this activity because they want to earn money or be popular with aliens. Most men on Earth say nothing (aliens never listen to objections) but insist the images are censored.
There are always many more men seeking sex than docile (or apparently docile) women. Clubs and bars make men pay while women get in for free. Men are asked to bring a partner, but single women are welcome. The imbalance between male demand for sex and female supply is a constant source of frustration for many single and married men.
It used to be called a wife swap, but today the more unisex term swing is used. People get together to have sex with complete strangers. Some people find this extremely erotic, while others find it the other way around due to a lack of emotional context. Women enjoy being admired sexually, but the main motivation comes from their male partners.
Both straight and gay men can obsess over their own performance and that of a lover as if sex were a competitive sport. However, over time, this approach to sex can cause dissatisfaction. In the long term, most people derive more satisfaction from relationships based on a sense of emotional connection with a lover. The non-orgasmic aspects of sex, like the anticipation and build-up of arousal, can also be enjoyable.
There is nothing a woman can do to make intercourse happen. But if you are attracted to a man, it can indicate your disposition. Women complement men’s sexuality, not having a similar focus on their own arousal, but engaging with male fantasies that help with male arousal. When a woman seduces a man, she can use sexual behaviors that tempt him to want to have sex with her by providing him with erotic arousal that elicits his arousal.
A woman values a man as a social asset (who has status and experience). But a man values the woman as a sexual asset. A young woman is a trophy for her attractiveness and inexperience. A man enjoys knowing that his lover is attractive not only to him but to other men as well. A man enjoys the satisfaction of an attractive woman choosing him as her lover.
When a man pays special attention to a woman, she is naturally flattered. All the time he admires or talks to her, in his mind she knows consciously or unconsciously that he wants to have sex with her. She can enjoy rewarding him for his admiration in the hope that he will love her. If you move in with another woman the next day, she feels betrayed. She has offered him her love and he has trampled on it. Women don’t understand how sex can be so important to men and yet so trivial. For men, sex often seems to be just a basic physical need. Some men have no interest in women as people. They just want the erotic variety and the sense of conquest.
Addictions are characterized by compulsive behaviors. For men, sex addiction often centers on an obsession with pornography. This causes problems due to misalignment with reality. Women, on the other hand, use sex to find love. Inexperienced women often think that men will love them if they offer them sex. Men don’t necessarily connect sex and love. Perversely, men often marry women who are less promiscuous because they value sexual loyalty in women even though they are not prepared to offer it themselves.
She can say she had 5 orgasms and you will have no way of proving her wrong. The truth is that the man would even want to prove her wrong. We all like to believe that we got it right, so who’s going to really question it unless it was a horrible performance (act) on their part? (Stephan Labossiere 2012)
