This entire issue can be resolved by reading just three verses of Scripture, Ephesians 5:22-24 (NKJV). “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ So be women to their husbands in everything.”
That is a powerful all-encompassing commandment. A wife must submit in all matters. Not in some things, not when she feels like it, but in “everything”. I guess there’s not much more to say. But there is.
As a lay minister and counselor, I have helped many individuals and couples, especially those with marital problems. My experience reveals that the biblical concept of a wife being submissive to her husband does not sit well with most women today, as even those of faith have been raised in a society that indoctrinates young women with feminist doctrine open in direct contradiction to love. God’s commandments.
Furthermore, many men also struggle with the subject, abusing the doctrine out of spiritual ignorance and occasional bad intentions. Put bluntly, they see their position as a right, rather than realizing that it is a monumental responsibility.
It is sad that a biblical doctrine intended to sow harmony in marriage has become a continual source of marital confrontation by a society bent on self-destruction.
Without blaming television, it’s a good source for understanding the depth of the problem, as shows, even comedies, often don’t show a married couple in agreement, but rather at each other’s throats. They demand each other. They yell and fight over the most mundane issues. They get divorced. This is illustrative because the entertainment industry often mirrors real life.
Some would say this is a good thing, after all, the “nuclear family” no longer exists, so why live in a “fantasy world”? That may or may not be true, but what is true is that instead of trying to raise ourselves and marriages to the level of the Almighty, we have chosen the path of least resistance by lowering the bar to deal with the slide of the society to a secular society. abyss..
And at the heart of the devaluation of marriage is the destruction of the roles of the spouses. A “misunderstanding” of the Scriptures has led men and women to harmful conclusions.
To the point, men have no authority over their wives unless they are within the Word of God. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). So when a man has to make a decision, he must do it out of love for his wife. He needs to listen to her and, whenever possible, influence her thoughts, opinions, wants, and needs. He must remember the golden rule. “So whatever you want men to do to you, do it to them too, because this is the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 7:12)
Demonstrating that the authority of a man comes only from the Lord, it suffices to give a hypothesis that allows the ridiculous to illustrate the sublime. For example, should a woman engage in prostitution if her husband demands it? 1 Corinthians 5:9 says, “I have written to you in my epistle not to associate with fornicators.” This commandment and others do not contain a qualifier that says “…unless the person is your husband.” The Bible is full of examples that make it clear that a man must respect and obey God’s law before he can expect his wife to respect and submit to his word.
And if he does what God asks of him, then what should the wife’s response be? She must submit or be in rebellion against God. “Obey those who govern you, and be submissive, because they watch over your souls, as those who have to give an account. Let them do it with joy and not with sadness, because that would be useless to you.” (Hebrews 13:17) Since God always says what he means and means what he says, the wording of this verse goes a long way toward clarifying the spiritual relationship between husband and wife.
It is very clear in the Scriptures that a wife’s submission to her husband is actually a submission to the Word of God, and in her best interest. Both husband and wife must understand that a Christian husband is simply a messenger. And both must act out of love for the other.
“However, let each of you in particular love both your own wife and yourself, and let the wife see that you respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)