Swingers look like ordinary people. So the next time you visit the local mall, anyone you see there could be a swinger. This is what swingers really look like: just their everyday person because that’s who they are when they’re not swinging.
People’s fitness level and body shape/size varies greatly in the swinger lifestyle. There are all shapes and sizes imaginable, but the bottom line is that there is definitely someone for everyone who is looking. Some people take very good care of themselves by eating well and exercising regularly. But it all comes down to how comfortable you feel in your own skin and how confident you are. If you’re comfortable with the way your own body looks, it will show and your fellow players will too.
Some swingers may tend to be a bit self-conscious about their bodies due to the fact that at some point in the near future they will be naked in a hot tub or club with other people around them. Then they feel the need not to be complacent with their appearance and to do something to always keep themselves in good shape. Whether it’s maintaining a tan or simply eating well and exercising regularly.
And some swingers tend to be self-critical when it comes to their physical appearance. Again, we will be naked in front of other people, so some swingers really care about this and will go out of their way to take care of themselves, or take more time to prepare to meet others (e.g. get a haircut, be more clean etc…)
But regardless of how fit you think you are, there will be some in the lifestyle who won’t find you attractive. On the other hand, there will be some that are attractive to you and some that are not. Just like the outside life, there are personal preferences and we all have them, so don’t be offended if someone in the lifestyle doesn’t find you attractive.
Think about the first time you went out with someone. How did you take care of her appearance then? Did you make any special arrangements? Did you work really hard in the gym for a while? Wear any special clothes? Well, swingers can be seen in a similar context where you are constantly meeting new people and want to do your best to keep the odds in your favor for a positive outcome and some fun times ahead.
One of the best tips for improving your appearance is to keep your self-confidence high and let it show, but don’t overdo it. When you meet people, do it confidently instead of shyly. Even if you don’t feel confident, you could ‘fake it ’til you make it’. Act confident and you will be confident and much more attractive to others.
The most important thing to know is that there are people in the lifestyle who are really fun to be around and then there are people who just aren’t. Personal fitness has nothing to do with how nice of a character you are. If a partner is fun to be with, others are more likely to want to spend time with them. If you can laugh a little and have a decent conversation with the other couples, you are more likely to enjoy the time you spend with them and this will make you more attractive.
Most swinger couples would rather spend intimate time playing with other people who are nice people but not that physically attractive than playing with attractive people who aren’t fun to be around.
Enjoy your time playing with those who are attracted to you and just forget about those who are not. At the end of the day, “attractiveness” is subjective.