If you’re trying to figure out how to save your marriage from divorce, there’s help for you. Divorce statistics have shown that half of couples who married as teenagers or for the first time will end up divorced. For those who married a second time, 60 percent of them ended in divorce. For those who were married more than twice, more than 70 percent ended in divorce.
So what do those statistics tell you?
They told you that those couples don’t really understand each other and agree, even if they say they do. Addiction such as gambling, incompatibility, inability to fit in with others’ lifestyles, extramarital affairs, finances are some of the root causes.
With that said, here are 5 ways to help save your marriage from divorce.
1. Identify the causes of your marital problems
Identifying the causes of your marital problems will not be easy if you are one of those who refuses to accept criticism or admit mistakes. If that describes you, you are not alone. I was like that too.
Still, that doesn’t excuse you and your spouse from going through this process of identifying and resolving the causes. If you don’t, your marriage will deteriorate and end in divorce. For that to begin, you need to take the first step of communicating and discussing with your spouse.
2. Stop blaming each other for the problem
Doing so will lead to more arguments, fights, and even tragedy as the worst case scenario. Since you are married, you must learn to share and compromise with each other. That is not only what your family and friends want you to do, but what God wants you to do as well if you are a Christian. He can win the argument, but he still ends up losing his wife if she decides to get divorced and be with someone else. If you have children, you may also be involved in custody. So to make this a win-win situation for you and your spouse, learn to stop blaming each other for the problem.
3. Spend more time with your spouse
Most of our time is spent at work which is understandable. But if our work requires us to be away from home for days, weeks, or even months, that could damage our marriage. Make sure you spend more time with your spouse. Not only on weekends but during the week. After dinner is the best time. Don’t just watch TV together, make it a point to go shopping or even take a walk in the park. Simple things like that can do wonders for your relationship.
4. Learn to listen carefully
Most women tend to talk more. That is its nature and always will be. Their reason for doing so is not to share their worries, experiences and problems with the men they love, but also to seek guarantees and solutions. So if you are a husband, you must learn to listen carefully. By helping her, you are also helping yourself, as she will return the favor for her.
5. Rediscover the romance in your marriage
With married life, love can be shown in many ways. However, research has shown that couples behave differently in real life than most people imagine or see in romantic movies. One great way is to rediscover the romance in your marriage by doing the things you both enjoy on your date days.
Make every birthday, Valentine’s Day and wedding anniversary a special occasion for others. Going out for a quiet dinner, participating in couples’ social activities, or even a vacation together can do wonders for your mindset.
You will feel much more positive and organized in your thoughts that way.